Oh man, I got to teach a hot flow class today and we jammed out a badass class to some really really #filthygood beats. Def check the music at the end of the blog.
Tonight I shared with the students my battle with social anxieties. It is pretty intense and for sure one of the main reasons my marriage with Ryann fell apart. Now, as a single dad, I have been trying to deliberately allow my practice to help me with these tough moments. The intention for class today was built around one of the main tools I use to face my anxiety head on. It comes from a little segment of a Dharma Talk I heard Pema Chodron give. I cannot remember the title of the talk, but I remember this powerful part:
Everything you’ve ever done in the past has gotten you to this moment.
How you relate to this moment determines your future.
On The Mat
This was a flow class, so our home base was downward dog. As we returned here after some hard work, we returned to this intention, “How Do You relate to this moment here?” If your relationship to this moment is full of comparison it’s hard to move with freedom. “This teacher is not teaching this class like the teacher who usually teaches this class. I like that other teacher better.” This removes you from practice. So we returned over and over again, in each moment, ‘how are your relating to this moment.’ When the class gets real challenging for you, when the heat gets deep, when your are so freaking tired, each a new moment, how you relate to it determines your future. Do you want your future to be muddy, frustrated, angry? Or do you want your future to be free, strong, & full?
Off The Matt
This intention is so powerful. One thing to note is that it really opens us to see how powerful the present moment is. It truly does old your entire pass and your entire future. Really think about, everything you've ever don't brought you to this moment, to reading this right now. Otherwise you wouldn't be here. Now that we are here, what will our thoughts and actions be? How will we step into our future? How will we step into our possibility?
One of my daily practices is working with my social anxiety. For you your obstacles may be different. A tough boss, or maybe your are the boss and you’re dealing with a tough employee or client. Your struggles might be body image, or relationship your in. Remember, this simple truth, everything you’ve ever done as brought to that moment (or else you wouldn’t be there), and how you relate that moment, your relationship to that moment will determine your future.
Do you relate to it with more complaining, blaming or wondering? Or do you open your arms to it and embrace it even if its painful.